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Dear Geek Goddess

I'm a 32 year old woman in Chicago. I've had my profile on Geek 2 Geek for a month now and haven't received a single message. I look at the matches and see a lot of men who should be interested in me, but none of them has bothered to contact me. I went to the E-Cyrano site to get some tips on writing a profile, and have changed it a couple of times. Still no messages. What's the problem?

  

It sounds to me like you're afraid to take the plunge.  It's really very simple – instead of waiting for someone to contact you, try and take the initiative and search for profiles that interest you and contact THEM!   You're 32 years old – if you were 60 I'd attribute your fear of being forthright to your generation, but you don't really have an excuse in your case. Geek men tend to be shy. Also, men are tired of being the ones who have to assert themselves in every situation, they're sitting back and letting women take care of it now. 

 

You should realize that being a hetero female has a certain advantage for you.  You have a lot more options these days – in fact, the odds are in your favor!   So stop trying to wait for things to happen and MAKE them happen, and I think you'll be pleasantly surprised.  Sure, you may experience lack of response, and even rejection, but that's all a part of the game, and if you don't try you'll never succeed. 

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